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We live in a skillset-driven society, where the emphasis is put on learning new skills and improving those we lack. This often fosters the belief that we need more training to achieve our goals.
There is an idea that changing your mindset is much cheaper and faster than learning a new skill. But faster doesn’t mean easier. The first step towards changing the way you think is simply to accept that you will be working on your thinking first. We decided to discuss with you how the mindset is changed and what is necessary to get completely different results from your work and from what you love doing.
Let’s continue developing this idea. Why can our thinking be an impediment? Our thinking attitudes are formed from our previous experience and emotional moments. Attitudes that do not bring the desired results can be called counter-attitudes.
❗ Let’s define our counter-attitudes
Just a few examples are self-doubt, limiting beliefs, and any other negative thoughts that prevent you from realizing your potential.
Every day about 65,000 thoughts arise in our head. Unfortunately, research states that these thoughts are mostly negative in many people. Negative and automatic. These “Automatic Negative Thoughts” (ANT) occur so often that you are probably not even aware of them.
👉 For example: do you know that nasty voice in your head that indicates that you spend money irresponsibly when you look at your monthly budget? Or makes a disparaging remark when we look at yourself in the mirror? Or devalues someone’s achievements: “He was just lucky!”, “Those who are not involved are always awarded”, “Managers do nothing, they just drink tea and share bonuses”.
We all know this voice. It is this voice that makes us hesitate before approaching someone. It makes us think two or three times before starting a business or thinking about a career change.
These “ants” (Automatic Negative Thoughts) crawl in our heads regardless of our desire. We all have different ants, and without knowing it, we usually let them ruin our dreams. It is difficult to maintain a positive attitude when this quiet voice constantly utters something like: “I cannot do this”, “I do not have the necessary knowledge”, “I am not smart enough”, “I am not in shape”, “I am not qualified” … and so on and so forth, ad infinitum.
To start eradicating these ANTs in your head, you need to pay attention to them. Pay attention when you hear this disdainful voice and be aware of how often it happens. Most likely, you will find out that your limiting thoughts can be narrowed down to a few key themes. Taking it into account is an important step because we cannot change what we have not acknowledged.
How can we notice these ants, which bombard our brain like negative charges and can burn the energy that we need so much in work and change?
👉 We would like to offer you a simple exercise, which will allow you to honestly notice your automatic negative attitudes, as if they were under a microscope.
🤔 Imagine some of your classmates or groupmates at the institute who did not do very well in studying because he did not put much effort in his studies and training. You see him arriving at a reunion party in a big new car. He is very well dressed. He has an expensive perfume, and a good mechanical watch. He looks like a person who is doing well in life. In the run of a conversation, it turns out that he has his own business. It is a relatively small IT company, which was launched from scratch 5-7 years ago, then it learned how to find customers, made several small products, attracted investments and is now growing. For example, the company headed by your classmate currently employs about 150-200 people, and he, as an owner, is doing very well.
You work in IT. He also works in IT. You graduated from one institute or university. You are a specialist, engineer, manager. He is an owner who has managed to create his own small business.
Why didn’t you do the same? What do you think? Try writing down the answer to this question, and then see what you get. How many answers to this question can be attributed to those “ants”? And yes, by the way, “he was just lucky” is also a devaluation of the efforts of another person, when you attribute the results to chance, and not to the merits of the person.
Let’s take a break and think together what you can do next if you feel “ant bites” and understand that they can prevent you from getting what you are striving for.
Tetics – the entry point into the program of your changes